Lessons from a Covert Narcissist Wife
A Hard Truth I Had to Accept
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There are moments on the spiritual journey when the greatest lessons come from the deepest wounds. This is one of those moments.
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I spent years trying to love someone who did not truly love me.
My wife, now no longer in my home, taught me many hard lessons:​
about manipulation
emotional abandonment
conditional love
and covert narcissism
It took time, pain, and deep inner work to fully understand what I had endured; and what I had overcome.
What Is a Covert Narcissist?
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A covert narcissist often hides behind charm, victimhood, or subtle emotional abuse. Unlike the loud, arrogant narcissist, the covert one drains your energy silently:
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Emotionally cold and withholding
Uses love bombing only when they want something
Disappears into silence when you do not comply
Plays the victim while draining your resources
Uses guilt, blame, and emotional blackmail
Always takes, rarely gives
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My Personal Experience
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I married someone I believed I could build a sacred life with. But instead, I was used emotionally, financially, and energetically.
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She abandoned me emotionally, yet expected me to carry all the financial burden.
I paid for everything, her expenses, her adult son's needs, even my own birthday dinner.
She only showed warmth when she wanted something. This was her version of love bombing.
When I began to set boundaries, she disappeared and punished me with silence.
After receiving her green card, she fully emotionally disconnected. Yet she still wanted money and support.
It was never about love.
It was about control, manipulation, and self-interest.
It was conditional love dressed as partnership.
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But I finally said NO!!! I stood in my power. And I reclaimed my peace.
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The Deeper Realization: I Wanted Soul Connection
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I entered the relationship seeking something beautiful. A deep soul connection. A partner to grow with spiritually, to expand in love and energy, and to raise consciousness together.
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But this experience showed me something even deeper:
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I do not need to be married.
I do not need a physical wife to be whole.
I do not need someone in the physical world to validate my worth or provide the energy I was missing.
Instead, I turned inward. I found and embraced my spiritual entourage. My star families, angels, ascended masters, and guides. Their love is what I truly needed all along. Pure, unconditional, radiant love that is beyond ego, beyond manipulation, beyond form. They never asked for anything in return. They gave love freely and reminded me who I am. A light body in human form that is evolving into divine alignment.
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What My Wife Taught Me
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She taught me the difference between conditional and unconditional love.
She showed me what manipulation, emotional games, and false affection looked like.
She forced me to dig deep into my core to discover my own worth, my light, and my divine self.
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She mirrored what I still needed to heal in myself when we met and got married, but I rose above it all because I did the very difficult inner work to heal myself.
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Now I Live In Peace
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With her gone, my home has returned to stillness. There is no more drama. No more chaos. No more energetic confusion.
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My home is my sanctuary.
My heart is open and whole.
My spirit is guided and protected.
And I am finally in alignment with my true mission, to embody light, to channel Earth consciousness, and to help others ascend through truth and love.
If You are In This Situation
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If you are reading this and see yourself in this story, know this:
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You are not broken.
You are not alone.
You are not unlovable.
You are waking up.
And it is time to reclaim your power.
Let go of what does not serve your light. Call in your true soul family. And let your healing begin. If you need guidance or support, please reach out to me. I will walk with you as you rediscover your own wholeness from narcissistic abuse and other topics here in my website.
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Compassion, Light and Love,
Gregory
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